How many here think it's OK to take someone else's child to a pool? Say your babysitting, you have two kids and you watch two kids; it's hot and you decide to go to the pool at your apartments. Does anyone think this is wrong? Would you allow your child to go to the pool with your baby sitter? One mom told me she would swap three kids with another mom who had three kids.... they would have no reservations with each others children, they would go anywhere with 6 kids in tow.

Play dates around the world are happening every day. Mom's (and/or dads) get together while children get to play. The next time you go to a play date, look around you ... how many conversations are happening with eye to eye contact.

After my horrible tragedy, I learned of a term called surveillance. They teach life guards how to never make eye contact. There was a nanny I spoke to one, who was taught this very thing in nanny school.

The next time you are at a play date, please practice surveillance. Tell other mom's about surveillance.